August 30, 2010

STRIPPING AWAY EXPECTATIONS

As parents we can put pressure on ourselves to look and act a certain way in order to do the "right way." When we use this line of thinking, we lose the perspective of acceptance, not just for our children, but of our own humanity. At times stepping back and seeing ourselves in a more human way can help. This is not an excuse for inappropriate behavior, but accepting that we are doing what we can with what we have can and will provide answers. Stripping away the expectations of parenting and doing the best we can is all we can do. After all we love our kids.

Dean N Nixon
Seminar Director, Life Coach

TurningLeaf Wellness Center

August 25, 2010

THE TRUTH

Truth transcends right or wrong. Truth is truth, it can not be dispelled. Truth does not change, it is eternal in nature and is constant. It can be felt by all yet is not owned or possessed by any. Right or wrong requires debate and proof, it is a constant hunger that consumes a great amount energy. As we look to our moral compass we are better served when we look for truth.


Dean N Nixon
Seminar Director, Life Coach

TurningLeaf Wellness Center

August 23, 2010

PATIENCE CAN FREE US FROM EXPECTATIONS

There is wisdom in obtaining patience, it can bring a sense  of peace and freedom. Patience is a learned behavior, part of it is derived from the development of faith, the rest in grown through experience. Through faith and experience we learn to discipline our thoughts and emotions, freeing us from expectations. Patience is the acceptance of time and the understanding of its value.


Dean N Nixon
Seminar Director, Life Coach

TurningLeaf Wellness Center

August 18, 2010

PARENTING CAN BE THE MOST DIFFICULT JOB OF YOUR LIFE

The parent of a struggling child is the parent who needs support the most. Parenting is one of most difficult experience of our life, the challenges are innumerable, from health and illness to discipline and rebellion. Then mix in the fact that we are raising them in this current society and the pressure is almost insurmountable. There is a fear of judgment of others and comments from family and school. If we can take the time to help and build them up in their struggles, we will have increased their chances of helping their youth.

Dean N Nixon
Seminar Director, Life Coach

TurningLeaf Wellness Center

August 16, 2010

MORNING - A TIME FOR REFLECTION

Have you ever noticed how quiet it is in the early morning, that peaceful calm as the world still slumbers? It is as if there is some anticipation of the new day, yet there is no stress or anxiety, just an openness. Then of course there are those mornings we have woken to little or no sleep, driven by stress and anxiety, haunted by the visions of an undisciplined imagination. Morning is a time for meditation and reflection, it can serve as a marker for the day, setting up our focus, and helping us to set a course that will bring us to our desired destinations.


Dean N Nixon
Seminar Director, Life Coach

TurningLeaf Wellness Center

August 11, 2010

THE MIND / BODY CONNECTION and PAIN

Emotional pain can intensify physical pain. The body has a powerful way of telling us that there is something it is struggling with. Pain is a great way to get us to look at the part of the body that needs attention. Emotional pain can do the same thing. However when you introduce unhealthy emotional pain with physical pain the combination can be destructive and overwhelming. It is important to educate ourselves of the difference between the two and how they express themselves in our lives. Controlling the unhealthy emotional pain can and will help to make physical pain more manageable.


Dean N Nixon
Seminar Director, Life Coach

TurningLeaf Wellness Center

August 9, 2010

CREATING RELATIONSHIPS WITH KIDS

As parents we often forget that we have a small window of time to develop a relationship of trust with our kids. Trust for children is important in exploring the world around them. The feeling of safety helps in the development of healthy self concept and boundaries. Between the ages of 0 to 8/10 we are parents, from 8/10 on up we are nothing more than spectators, cheerleaders, coaches, mentors, etc. This is a critical time to be aware of our energy and the energy we use to teach and motivate. Children by nature rebel against fear and are repelled by it. However, they can be conditioned to respond to fear, using it as a way to define the boundaries and/or the lack of boundaries in their lives. Using fear based motivation with our Children can over time create a lack of trust, will eventually close the lines of communication and influence. We need to use the small window of time to create relationships with our kids.


Dean N Nixon
Seminar Director, Life Coach

TurningLeaf Wellness Center