HOW DO WE LIVE?

Living is not just going through the motions, on autopilot, and waking up finding that the days have slipped away. Living is slowing the pace and feeling each breath. We often speed through the day not realizing the cost. We slowly give away moments and fill our days with activities, then finally collapse with fatigue and frustration. The life we want is within our control, it is a choice, we can choose to slow the pace and relieve the pressure. Yet we feel we don't have control due to the outside pressures, relationships, obligations and commitments. This over connection is a burden and can cause resentment and pain. There is a balance that can be attained by anchoring to our core values and understanding the purpose of the roles we play. Our life is a gift, not only to ourselves, but to others. The amount of influence we have is based upon the relationship we have with ourselves. Living and breathing is the only thing we are required to do to experience this life.


Dean N Nixon
Seminar Director, Life Coach
TurningLeaf Wellness Center

EXPRESSING OUR FEELINGS

Freedom to express our feeling is a continual need and is an important part of growth. Our ability to express what we feel is a building block of any relationship. If this need is abandoned or neglected, we cut off a key part of moving forward. Most fear the repercussions or loss of people if feelings are openly shared, others are "brutally honest" and offend the listener, both are fear based and cause a lack of communication. There is a balance that can be achieved and is necessary in learning to be expressive. It is relevant and timely to learn the skills now to promote growth.


Dean N Nixon
Seminar Director, Life Coach
TurningLeaf Wellness Center

SEEING THE TRUTH

Our emotional state affects how we perceive the world around us. We have the ability to feel how we want, therefore we can choose the way we see the world by controlling our emotions. The vision of our daily lives is like looking through a water bottle, no mater how we move the bottle it produces a different and distorted views. We never truly see fully or clearly what we are looking at, we my catch a glimpse of reality, but there will always be distortion. What is affecting our view and is controlling what we see is the ever present emotional state of our being, this state is driven by discipline or lack of disciplined of our thoughts. We have the ability to think, ponder, reason, and debate. We problem solve, internalize, visualize, and even dream, all with out much effort. How we discipline these process will impact how we feel and lead to our interpretation of our world. Seeing the truth is a challenge, but it is within our ability and reach. It just takes effort and discipline.

Dean N Nixon
Seminar Director, Life Coach
TurningLeaf Wellness Center

SAVOR THE DAY

At the end of the day we have a chance to unwind and contemplate, this is an important time to prepare for the next. The attitude we end up with at the end of the day, can affect the one will awaken with. This simple shift has big ramifications on the direction of our thoughts and opportunities. It is important to say that this reflection needs to be tempered with optimism and forgiveness of our humanity. With that said, there are several methods we can use; prayer, meditation, journal, and chatting with a loved one to de-compress. Whatever method we choose the result will be beneficial and time well spent.

Dean N Nixon
Seminar Director, Life Coach
TurningLeaf Wellness Center

FINDING THE STATE OF REST

The body and mind must find a state of rest. We live in a fast paced time, full of meetings and schedules, deadlines and dates. We find ourselves running frustrated and fatigued. This fast pace doesn't allow us to integrate the day and the lessons we have learned. We put off the self nurturing we are in dire need of, finding ourselves speeding through life. Time is one of our constant allies, never leaving our side. It is the one thing we often misuse and is mismanaged. Time can give us the organization and structure to rest, meditate, nap, walk, sleep, or to just lay on our back looking at the clouds. This is when answers will find us and relieve us from the frustrations of the day and the not knowing. Find time to rest and recoup, make it a priority in self nurturing and enlightenment.

Dean N Nixon
Seminar Director, Life Coach
TurningLeaf Wellness Center

LOVE HAS NO BOUNDARIES

Love has no boundaries, but we need them. It has been said "love has no boundaries," this can be a problematic, even though love is infinite and forgiving, humans are not. When we have unhealthy or poor boundaries the opportunity to create Pain and hurt or be taken advantage of is great. Love is a powerful expression, it can bring peace to a unstable heart, it can provide hope to a solitary life, bind two lives into one. Love is often confused with similar emotions, emotions that can feel just as powerful as love yet be very destructive. Emotions such as desperation, fear of abandonment, rejection, dependency with an unhealthy partner, enabling, just to name a few. Most of these start out as love then through the years become warped due to a lack of boundaries. Later we begin to recognize these feelings as love and pass them on to other relationships. Through example and modeling, even though it is unintentional, we teach these emotions to our loved ones and children, giving them the same understanding and confusion. It is imperative that we learn how to have powerful boundaries and allow love to become as powerful as it can be, not masked by unhealthy emotions disguised as love. It is through boundaries that love is disciplined and appropriate, fulfilling its purpose, and bind truth to truth.

Dean N Nixon
Seminar Director, Life Coach
TurningLeaf Wellness Center

FINDING OUR TRUTH

Each of us has been given an inherent ability to obtain knowledge. The lack of confidence we have in our own ability to learn and know the truth with in us is a common problem. We place our trust in others and turn every way but to ourselves to find answers, answers that we have the ability to find or discern. This disconnect creates a dependency on the world and a lack of trust in the divine, it is one of the great lies and is the cause of much heartache. It is the responsibility and opportunity for all humanity to connect to the truth through discernment and find our answers.

Dean N Nixon
Seminar Director, Life Coach
TurningLeaf Wellness Center

KEEPING OURSELVES MOVING FORWARD

As we learn, grow and overcome, we feel a shift and change that is so powerful that we make note of it. Through it, we gain a strong resolve or marker of our growth. Later we feel as though we have lost the feeling or forgotten and regressed. We can never truly regress, if we are still acting on what we learned and are moving forward, the markers remain. So what has changed? Our perspective. For example, In the morning, when you put your shoes and socks on, and by midday you don't feel them anymore. This does not mean you have lost them, just that you have become accustomed to the feeling. As we keep ourselves moving on the path of discovery we will have epiphanies and feelings of euphoria, but these feelings will give way to knowing and may not carry the same initial emotions yet they are still powerful and relevant.

Dean N Nixon
Seminar Director, Life Coach
TurningLeaf Wellness Center

PAIN CAN BE OUR TEACHER

Wounds can take a long time to heal. We can and often do get hurt leaving wounds that do not fully heal, these wounds can scare us and become sensitive to anything that may appear as a threat. Pain is a teacher and is a continual companion on our journey in this life, we however, create pain that is not intended to be part of the journey. It is important that we learn to how discern the difference and eliminate unnecessary pain while embracing healthy pain. When we embrace pain that is healthy we progress. However, when avoid all pain we retard our growth process.

Dean N Nixon
Seminar Director, Life Coach
TurningLeaf Wellness Center

TAKE RISKS TO LIBERATE OURSELVES

As a timid bird with its new wings is determined to take flight and chirps for reassurance, A young child looks back as they walk into the first day in a new school, unsure of the days ahead. We each take steps towards uncertainty daily, wondering if the choices we are making are the "Right Choices." Doubt fill our heads with clouds of fear and questions, leaving us struggling, sometimes even immobilized. The true nature of man is to explore and take risks, pushing deeper into the unknown, revealing truth and knowledge. The perceived limits we face each day come from the conditioning we receive to define our world, yet each day we push into undiscovered areas to reveal answers, and even more questions. Each of us can challenge what we fear to challenge, by doing so, we can liberate ourselves and others from the fear of the unknown. Each step we take into our unknown moves humanity towards an enlightenment that we can only dream of, Inner Peace.

Dean N Nixon
Seminar Director, Life Coach
TurningLeaf Wellness Center